My daughter is the culmination of all the woman in my life. She embodies their strengths, resilience, grit, sass and beauty. In her, I see first my wife, our sisters, our mothers, aunts and our grandmothers. In her eyes, I see her rich ancestral lineage of matriarchs. She symbolises the hopes of her great grandmothers … Continue reading Culmination: Mother’s Day

Let me start by saying thank you for the amazing feedback on my previous post, the language of men. I truly was not expecting the feedback, and it keeps on coming. This piece is a follow up to my promise to share some of my everyday habits, for conquering depression inducing stress & anxiety. 1. … Continue reading The Language of men – The 9 habits

Eastern Cape amongst other things is known to be one of the most fertile areas for marijuana farming. During the apartheid era, the province was divided into Ciskei and Transkei. The Transkei was more rural and known for growing illegal marijuana. That's where the name Transkei gold is said to originate. The potential for legal … Continue reading Transkei Gold!

One of the most powerful medicinal properties we can find down the corridors of introspection is clarity of purpose. As you would know I haven't written any thought piece for a while now, well, I decided to take a spontaneous break. It was certainly not part of my first quarter plans but I had to. … Continue reading The language of men

Let me start by saying compliments to you. I wish you a very prosperous 2019. 2018 was an incredibly special year for me. I sum it up by saying it was about giving birth, it was a year of simply creating things out of nothing and seeing ideas come to life and then see them … Continue reading Help is not coming

One day I will own a house with a balcony. I love sitting outside at night, just to listen to the sounds of solitude, especially when it rains. Sometimes the dramatic interference of rushing raindrops reminds me of the uncinematic theatre of thoughts in my own head. But the inexplicable darkness decorating our galaxy also … Continue reading Poem: I become a madman when it rains

I am a Millenial dad. That means I was born in the second half of the '80s, and I am now a parent. How time flies. This was important to explain because, in spite of the misplaced notion that we - Millenials - are the most entitled human beings, it is through this entitlement mindset … Continue reading When we begin to see ourselves

I recently came across this video on Twitter. I don't know what the joke was about and what language they spoke. But something about it made me smile, I know what it is, it was this man's infectious dry laughter. His free laughter and his surroundings reminded me of a beautiful stage in my life. … Continue reading History: Dry laughter & Mary Jane

Sometimes the way we treat ourselves mimics the lens people have chosen to use when looking at us. It's true that people's perceptions of us do not have to become our reality. But I submit to you that it is also true that, we become what people say we are the day our heart's feet … Continue reading You’re not crazy.

Just in case you missed part one of this thought on Black tax, you can click here Black tax vs Black parents In the process of undoing the impact of inequality in our families, each generation has to sacrifice a portion of its individual comforts and sometimes opportunities just so they can be able to … Continue reading Black tax vs Parenting while black