Pinnochio: The truth about lying

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There’s a Pinnochio in all of us. But here’s the problem with lying;

It burdens our memory. Our brains are wired to forget information. If we remembered everything our senses consumed, we would go mad from all the stimuli our brains have to process, every split second. So our brains forget certain things and store others.

However, lying is not forgetting. It’s remembering to distort facts. This is why it’s a burden to our memory; lying means that we always have to remember what we said, how we said it and to whom we said it to. Think about gossip. The gossiper has to always remember who they whispered to. When we’re telling the truth we have nothing to remember. I think that’s why the truth sets us free.

It takes one lie to sustain another.

Lies have weak legs they can’t stand on their own, so if you lie about one thing, rest assured you’ll be presented with an opportunity to lie again next time to support your previous lie – or to just tell the truth. That’s how people get caught in a lie because sooner or later the lies won’t add up.

Sly fox.

Lying creates a sly-fox-aura about us, so much so that even when we’re telling the truth it sounds like a lie. As cumbersome as this may sound, it’s true. I think that’s how people become compulsive liars.

Why do we lie though?

People lie to avoid taking ownership of their role in a situation or the lack thereof. People lie to save face. People lie to purge their image, which is stupid because using lies to absolve ourselves from anything is the equivalent of using mud to wash off a stain on a bright coloured garment. While Pinnochio’s nose grew every time he lied, our lies say something about our characters every time we lie.

So I ask, what’s the benefit of lying? There is no benefit. The problem with lying is usually not the lie but the habit itself, because it leads us to start believing that we are slick and good at this but more so we start believing our own lies. Like sunrise undresses night from the morning, the light of truth frequently shines on our individual mess. When it does, I think we should look at it as an opportunity for us to sharpen our humanity.

We cannot lie to protect the truth.

For as long we are in this body of flesh, we will always have a Pinnochio to overcome. And just before I lie, telling the truth is not part of human nature, we would rather shift the light away from ourselves; being a truthful person is hard. But it’s necessary. It’s the only way we can protect ourselves from building our lives on superfluous realities deficient of the kind of peace only truth can provide.

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4 thoughts on “Pinnochio: The truth about lying

  1. Hi, a great piece worth reading regarding lying and lies we tell as human being, id like to add and also give an extended version of the scope of lying. Lying is the play of words and we get pulled by circumstances. Truth is a perception of the individual it differs from individual to individual, it is different from a FACT which is clear and tested. NATGEO did a study on kids aged 3 – 7 years and it was proven that lies are definitely embedded in us as humans to gain, protect and even important for our survival. it is like the golden mean in a philosophy that good and evil are both good, or losing is winning and winning is sometimes losing: meaning as human we give an interpretation in according to our perception and or our frame of reference and the circumstances we find ourselves, in…as people, we living in own individual illusions where we imagine only the good happening to us forgetting that also the bad is good for us. So lying is definitely important but not to be a compulsive liar who distorts information to mislead the masses but to survive. My opinion is there is good in all tools that are at our disposal that’s why they are here.

    Louis Pasteur found out that gems are actually good to fight out other bacteria …hence we have Louis Pasteur Hospital today…

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  2. I remember watching Pinnochio as a child, but enjoyed it simply for the cartoon it is. As an adult, many years later, I watched it again and was floored by how much it shared. Wow! Someone actually explained what most of us don’t “see” while growing up. We heard it all the time. Be responsible. Be honest. But to most of us, those were just words of interference/ inconvenience. We knew we should, but the world kept pulling us away. And sometimes, “friends” were fiends. **It’s natural, I suppose, to want to be liked, to be admired, to be the center of attention, and to want all that glows. ***We are born with an innate knowing. I suppose, that’s why children seem so much more natural and honest, though that changes with time. And some learn quite early in life to cause trouble and rebel, for their own reasons. Remember, parents were once children, and though they do the best they can, they too had their challenges and struggle. That’s where understanding and forgiveness comes in.
    We grow up. We play. Then, we’re enticed, but we have choices. We’re playing in the yard. Our dad told us not to ride our bicycles today, maybe later. Perhaps, he’s heard of a reckless driver or knows traffic is heavier, or just wants us to study our homework. So, while doing chores, a “friend” comes by. He says, let’s go riding. I explain that my dad has told us not to ride. The friend calls us “chicken,” or says your dad is just trying to see if you can stand up and be your own person. You never thought of that before. Suddenly, your mind is changing. After more promptings, like he’ll give you candy or there’s a great treasure to see, you go along, feeling the conflict within. The conflict is the moment of truth. What do you do?
    You go with your friend. Upon finally coming home, there is a gulf between you and your father. You’re punished.. You say you’re sorry. Perhaps things are mended.
    Sometimes, oftentimes, these little excursions from doing right grow. Telling lies. Not doing your chores right or on time. Skipping school. Little thefts. And you find yourself bored with doing the right thing where before it was effortless. Time continues.
    We’re grown up. The world entices. The internet entices. We continue straying, making excuses in our minds with the conflict growing. Then it’s that first cigarette. It’s drinking. It’s partying. It’s getting into all the wrong people. The excuses give us the licence. Time.
    People learn from their conflicts and life becoming more difficult. Sometimes tragedies wake us up. Sometimes, not. And like in Pinnochio, we’re changing inside, and people can see the results on our outside. Hard lesson? Yes. But what else can be. Do we continue or brave the walk back to our childhood innocence? As Pinnochio did?

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